Baby Number Two...mommy feeling guilty again!
Constantly i feel guilty towards my 2nd baby girl, the attention i used to give to my first is double whatever i'm providing to her now. The attention is now split between the two of them, i I love each one of them in a different way and i would definitely do anything just to please them and make them the happiest on earth but this constant guilt has to have an end.
With my First, every time i came back from work i used to bring a toy and play with him with that toy so all of his toys have a special memory. As for the 2nd i barely have the time to play with her toys, let's be honest even the attention to my first is less now. Is it natural? is it ok to have your love and attention split now? Some people say you should give quality time to each one separately but that can't be doable as i feel both deserves my attention at the same time.
Mommies,a Survey of 3000 moms have shown that 75% of us feel more relaxed about the care of our second child and so treat them differently to our first baby.
The study also reveals 42% of us admit to worrying more about our first child than our second, but 60% of us think we were overly-attentive towards our first child anyway.
This more chilled attitude to parenting a second child means baby No. 2 is less mollycoddled and encouraged to grow up faster. Earlier weaning, less nappy changes and being left to cry for longer are all among the changes most of us seem to make when raising our second baby.
Of the mums surveyed, here are the 18 things they admit to doing differently with their second child. Let us know which apply to you...
1. Leaving them to entertain themselves while getting on with the housework (33 %)
2. Only changing the nappy when necessary, not after every feed (33 %)
3. Stop making own baby food and start blending the family meal (26 %)
4. Weaning at 4 months, not 6 (26 %)
5. Leaving them crying for longer rather than rushing to see what is wrong
6. More willing to accept second-hand clothes
7. Spending less money on toys and treats
8. Only having them in the bedroom for the first few weeks, not the first 6 months
9. Letting them watch 'older television' at a younger age than their older sibling
10. Not being as worried about safety and buying home safety products
11. Happier to buy secondhand safety products
12. Leaving them to manage their own food
13. Picking them up less when they hurt themselves
14. Giving them chocolate and sweets at an earlier age
15. Spending less money on safety products
16. Going back to work sooner
17. Expecting them to develop quicker
18. Putting them in nursery earlier
It is interesting to know such facts but to be honest i have noticed that my 2nd child have a stronger personality, what have you noticed about your second child and do you constantly feel guilty about taking less care about him/her?
Share your experiences and thoughts mommies!